Do you know why you strive?
Here’s the answer.
You are hooked by the outcome.
So much that you don’t know what you are doing.
It’s like “busy being busy”. And waiting for that magical result.
Striving is something we all do time to time. But do we need to?
Here’s a story which will illustrate what I’m talking about.
When I was in MBA, I consulted one of my professors. He was like my guide and friend. I was struggling with a particular subject and I told him so. He listened and then said – “What would happen if you don’t score well on this subject?” I was furious. But I didn’t want him to know that. So I said – “Sir, but I want to score well on that subject?” He said – “Okay, do good. Why worry?” Then I almost screamed, “But Sir, I have been struggling with it.”
He looked at me and smiled. I will never forget the way he smiled. And then he said – “You are not struggling with the subject. You are struggling with the idea that you need to score well on that subject. If you are weak in it, study. Don’t worry about the rest. If you do good, okay; if you don’t do good, okay!”
Since then, I started applying the same principle in everything I struggle with. And thus I rarely strive these days. If I face any uncertainty, I say to myself – “If it happens, okay; if it doesn’t happen, okay!” And I feel peace almost immediately.
If you want to do good, don’t worry about “good”, just “do”. And everything will work out okay.
You may not find every outcome to your liking, but that’s okay. You will be fine. The world will not crash. And you will not become insane.
However, you will throw away striving forever.
Remember, if it happens, okay; if it doesn’t happen, okay!